Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, Siman 212

AI summary (may contain mistakes)

When does a death in the family push off a wedding, and when do the Sheva Brachos come first? In our times, since others can prepare the wedding, the Kitzur postpones it until after the mourning period. The edition read adds, citing the Igros Moshe, that even today circumstances can be weighed, with a local authority consulted. Once the couple has been together, the Kitzur has the seven days of feasting come first, with only private matters forbidden, and shiva follows.

Key points

• Citing Chazal, the Kitzur likens a mourning family to a stone arch, where one stone shaking shakes all.
• For a parent the Kitzur adds the yahrzeit day, but in a leap year twelve months suffice.

In this shiur

1. 0:00A widow waiting ninety days
2. 0:53A death before the wedding
3. 2:08A death after the chuppah
4. 4:55Leaving the house during shiva
5. 8:03Grieving excessively over the deceased
6. 9:30Family judgment and the arch mashal
7. 12:23Getting up on the seventh day
8. 13:38The thirtieth day and the yahrzeit

Topics

• Aveilus
• Shiva
• Sheva Brachos
• Shloshim